A queer Chinese American reflects on filial piety, generational trauma, and finding connection with his grandmother while severing ties with his mother.
This was such a tender, brave piece. You write about generational trauma, love, and self-preservation with clarity and grace. The way you hold both the warmth of your grandmother and the pain of your mother is deeply moving. Setting boundaries especially with a parent is never easy, but you do it with such integrity.
Your decision to choose peace without bitterness is powerful, and your reflections offer so much to anyone navigating complex family bonds. Thank you for sharing this…it’s beautifully written and quietly courageous. Keep going. Your voice matters.
A very moving story that definitely brought up some feelings I can related to, as a fellow immigrant (though to Canada and not USA) of Chinese parents.
This was such a tender, brave piece. You write about generational trauma, love, and self-preservation with clarity and grace. The way you hold both the warmth of your grandmother and the pain of your mother is deeply moving. Setting boundaries especially with a parent is never easy, but you do it with such integrity.
Your decision to choose peace without bitterness is powerful, and your reflections offer so much to anyone navigating complex family bonds. Thank you for sharing this…it’s beautifully written and quietly courageous. Keep going. Your voice matters.
This is such an eloquent and kind response. I’m deeply grateful for this.
absolutely brilliantly written
thank you so much, this means a lot to me!
Sad but important story. I have always felt that forgiveness is over-rated. Empathy is far more important, and you clearly have that, Sam.
Thank you for your kind words 💛
A very moving story that definitely brought up some feelings I can related to, as a fellow immigrant (though to Canada and not USA) of Chinese parents.
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for your kind words!